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Wednesday, April 27, 2011

My First Home Birth

Sorry this has taken so long to get posted.  It seemed that whenever I had both hands free for typing, it was much more urgent to do laundry, wash dishes or something along those lines.  As always with a birth story, be warned!  This is a birth story and may contain details you don't really want to read about.  For those who are interested in real birth stories, enjoy!

My decision to birth at home actually began during my pregnancy with Gunnar.  If you have read my other birth stories you know that I wanted epidurals with my first two children, but was unable to have them.  This ended up being a blessing in disguise because it lead me to believe in natural childbirth.  With my third child I knew I would not be requesting any type of pain relief, so I did lots of research on natural childbirth and I read tons of birth stories.  It was from these stories that I became exposed to home birth.  At first I thought it was crazy, but the more I read, the more I seemed to identify with the birth experiences of those mothers.  I also watched tons of calm births to prepare myself for labor, and many of those videos were of home births.  By the time I was eight months pregnant with Gunnar, I realized that I wanted a home birth, but felt it was too late in the pregnancy to change my game plan.

I went on to have a relatively good hospital birth.  What sealed the deal was my friend Katie gave birth at home just a few days after I had Gunnar.  Seeing the pictures of her home birth made me feel brave enough to pursue a home birth for my next pregnancy.  Since I didn't get pregnant again for another year and a half, I had plenty of time to discuss things with Nate and he soon was a supporter of home birth.  His philosophy is "you do the work of labor, so you decide how you want things done."

Fast forward to last fall.  I waited until the end of my first trimester to start looking for a midwife.  After some research and talking with my friend, Katie, I decided to go with her midwife, Stacia.  I went to my regular OB around 14 weeks pregnant because I knew I could only have a home birth if everything was normal with the pregnancy.  At about 24 weeks, my doctor told me my ultrasound showed I had placenta previa.  With my placenta blocking the opening of the cervix, I would possibly have to have a C-section if it didn't move out of the way by the end of the pregnancy.  This was a little unnerving, and I tried not to worry about the outcome of the situation.  I continued to see both my midwife and doctor for the next few months.  Finally an ultrasound at 32 weeks showed the placenta had moved completely out of the way.  The home birth was a go and I quit seeing my OB.  I didn't want to order any of my home birth supplies until I knew I could have one, so for the next few weeks I got my supplies ordered and tried to have everything ready at home.

At 37 weeks I started having some false labor.  This didn't surprise me because I had false labor for 8 long weeks with Gunnar.  Through the last 3 weeks of the pregnancy I had about 5 episodes of false labor.  One night, at 6 days before I really went into labor, the false labor was so intense that Nate and I set up the birth pool and laid out all the supplies and towels.  At about 1 am the contractions stopped.  I was so frustrated.  I thought for sure it was the real thing.  Nate was sweet enough to put all the stuff away before I woke up the next morning so I wouldn't have to look at it!  We decided to keep the pool up, though, since I was getting close to my due date.

On my due date, we headed to church.  It is so funny to see people's reactions when they ask when you are due and you tell them "today!"  After church we headed out to Nate's grandma's to visit for a bit.  While at her house I noticed I was having some contractions and they were lasting longer than usually.  But they were about 20 minutes apart, so I didn't pay much attention.  My parents asked to come out that evening for dinner.  We headed home to meet them.  I told Nate about my contractions, but I told him not to get his hopes up.  Throughout dinner I noticed the contractions were still lasting longer and they were getting more frequent.  By 7 pm they were about 7 minutes apart.  I called Stacia and she said that Nate should fill the pool and asked me to call her if they got any closer together.

I went and sat on the couch to talk with my dad.  As soon as I sat down and put my feet up, the contractions almost seemed to go away.  After about 20 minutes I had a contraction and they continued, but were 12 to 17 minutes apart.  Here I started to get a little worried.  I had Nate filling up the pool, but I was starting to wonder if it was false labor again.  I decided to get up and do stuff around the house to see if I could get the contractions closer together.  Nate, my mom and I straightened up the house, ran the vacuum, wiped down the bathrooms and set out the birth supplies.  All that work got the contractions back to 7 to 9 minutes apart.  I was feeling tired, so I headed upstairs to lay down for a bit.  When I laid down, the contractions went back to being 15 to 20 minutes apart.  I felt very tired, so I laid there even though I knew I needed to be up on my feet to get them closer together again.  After a while I headed downstairs and shared the bad news with Nate and my mom.  I was sure this was false labor.

My mom and Nate weren't convinced.  Nate and I decided to head to Mejier.  We needed a few groceries anyway, and that way we could walk a few extra laps to see if it helped things along.  At the store, out of good faith I decided to purchase newborn diapers and nursing tea.  I showed Nate and told him I was buying those things having faith I was really in labor.  While we were shopping I went quite a while with no contractions.  By the end of our third lap I had a few good contractions.  At the checkout I had a real good one.  I think that one helped me believe this wasn't false labor.

We headed home around 10 pm.  We finished up a few things around the house.  At 11 pm I used the bathroom and noticed I had lost my plug.  I called Stacia and she said that she would head on over.  Stacia and her assistant midwife, Susan got to the house around midnight.  The pool was ready and I got in.  I had purchased a tank-style dress to wear in the pool to make sure everything was modest since my children and father would be present at this birth.  The water felt very good, but I noticed that once in the pool, my contractions spaced far apart again.  To help pass the time I asked Nate to put in a movie.  All the movies were in our bedroom where my father was sleeping, so I had my pick of the two movies we had downstairs: Amazing Grace or Bourne Identity.  I went with Bourne Identity.  I really like that movie, plus I knew Amazing Grace would make me cry.  Stacia and Susan settled in on the pull-out couch, my mom in the rocking chair and Nate headed to the living room to get some sleep. Nate's sister, Sarah, showed up right around that time.

I spent the next two hours, mostly in the pool, except for a 20 minute period where I got out to use the bathroom and noticed that my contractions got much closer together when I was back on my feet, so I stayed out a bit to help labor along.  A little after 3, Stacia could tell I was getting frustrated.  My contractions were getting more uncomfortable, but they were all over the place.  Sometimes I would have a few contractions right in a row and sometimes they were 15 minutes apart.  She offered to check me to see how far I was dilated.  I declined, telling her I would just be frustrated if I wasn't very dilated.  She suggested I get out of the pool, get back into my pj's and have Sarah massage my back for a bit.  Nate's sister is a massage therapist and had offered her help during my labor.  I did what Stacia suggested and Sarah massaged my back and hit certain pressure points while I sat on the birthing ball.  Sarah also brought along some of her spa music.  That was very helpful to have that soothing music in the background.

After what seemed about an hour of massage, my contractions were coming every 4 to 5 minutes and lasted about a minute or longer, so Stacia said it was fine to get back into the pool.  Getting back in the pool felt awesome, but once again my contractions spaced out.  At this point I didn't care.  I felt so tired I welcomed the long breaks in between.  At about 4:30 am I asked for Nate to be woken up because I wanted him in the room.  Even though the contractions were irradic, they were intense, so I figured it wouldn't be long.  Shortly after that I asked him to help my parents get the kids awake, as I felt birth could be soon.

My mom said she couldn't wake Layla up at first and then she finally said "the baby is coming" and Layla jumped out of bed and ran downstairs and was right by the pool's side.  Julius was a bit grumpy waking up and had to hang out in the living room for a few minutes before he was ready to come into the back room.  Gunnar was content to just be held and watch from a distance.  Layla and Julius gave me kisses when they saw me and Layla sat right by me and stroked my hair.

According to my midwife's notes, I told her I was ready to push at 5:01 am.  Stacia had just dosed off before I told her this.  She and Susan jumped right up and put on their gloves.  She asked me to not push yet at the next contraction because she wanted to hear the baby's heart rate one more time before I began pushing.  So I did my best to breath through the next contraction.  She said the heart rate was great and I could push.  Then I didn't have another contraction for several minutes and I actually fell asleep.  I woke up to the next contraction and began to push.  Throughout this whole labor, all my contractions had been very manageable and I had calmly been able to relax and cope with the pain.  But this last contraction made me a bit nervous, mostly because I was not sure I could stay quiet through it.  My children were present and I didn't want to scare them by making some awful sound. 

I decided that even if I made some noise, I had to push this baby out, so I went for it.  Fortunately I was able to do so with just some minor groaning.   I pushed her head out and told everyone " the head's out" and then pushed out the rest of her body before the midwife could even check for the baby.  As the baby floated to the surface, Stacia asked if I wanted to grab my baby and I told her I did.

Contessa Noelle was born at 5:07 am.  It was so wonderful to scoop my own baby up and bring her to my chest.  She was so beautiful and she started wailing instantly.  I noticed she had long fingers and toes and that her little fingernails were like talons, they were so long!  It was awesome to see the stunned looks on all the kids faces.  Even though we prepared them ahead of time, they were amazed that a baby came out of me.

After a few minutes I felt ready to birth the placenta.  Stacia asked Nate if he wanted to cut the cord.  He declined, saying he's done it before.  Hearing this, Layla piped up that she wanted to do it.  So with Nate and Susan's help, Layla cut Contessa's cord.  I had always pictured that I would get out of the pool to birth the placenta, but I felt very tired and decided to stay in the pool.  As soon as it was out, Stacia removed it from the pool to examine it.  Contessa was wrapped in a towel and handed off to Nate.  Stacia and Susan helped me out of the pool and helped dry me off and get me into a fresh nightgown.  I then headed to the pull-out couch to be examined.  The exam showed no tears and minimal blood loss.  Layla sat next to me and held my hand through the exam.  At one point she kissed my forehead and told me I was doing such a good job and she was proud of me!  That girl is such a sweetie!

Contessa was brought to me so I could nurse her.  She was a natural from the start.  Stacia and Susan emptied the pool, threw in a load of towels and packed up their things.  Before she left, Stacia then gave me a few doses of cottonwood bark oil extract.  It helps the uterus contract strongly and reduces your chance of hemorrhage.  Boy, were those after birth pains intense!  I think many of my after birth pains during those first 24 hours were worse than the majority of my labor pains.  But after the first day, they died off to a minimal discomfort. 

It was wonderful to have my children there to witness the birth of their newest sibling.  I believe they felt very included by being part of such a special event.  Plus, with past births, my children could only visit the hospital for short periods of time and they were always anxious the entire time Nate and I stayed at the hospital.  This time they didn't have to be separated from their parents for 3 days.  It was so wonderful to go into labor at home and be able to move about and do what I wanted to do and needed to do for my labor.  Not being hooked up to monitors or an IV was fabulous!  It's so wonderful to hold your new baby and not have a sore IV port sticking out of your arm or hand.  One of the best feelings to is to crawl into your own bed with your new baby and husband and sleep like no other.  Sure, I had to wake up a few times to feed Contessa and change her diaper, but the sleep is so good compared to the hospital setting.  No nightly vital checks that always seem to occur in between feedings.  Just cozy sleep in your own bed.

And some of the best parts of home birth occur before and after the birth.  For the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy, my midwife came to my home for my weekly appointments.  It was wonderful not to drag my big ol' pregnant belly out in all kinds of weather for those weekly visits.  All of my appointments with Stacia were usually around an hour.  You never get that kind of time, care and attention from an OB.  And since I have had the baby, I have had three follow up appointments to check on Contessa and I at my house and I will still receive two more visits from her over the next few weeks.  I have to say the appointments at home have been one of the biggest blessings.

So that is my home birth story.  While I appreciate the special hospital births I have enjoyed, I know I will always treasure the comfort and experience of my first home birth.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Could Be the Last... or Not


This past Sunday as the kids were brushing their teeth before church, it dawned on me that this could be the last time we are getting ready for church with just three kids.  I thought of how easy it was.  Layla and Julius dressed themselves and Nate got Gunnar changed.  The next time we go to church we might be juggling the newness of a nursing infant.....or not.  I might still be pregnant this Sunday.  Only time will tell!

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

38 Week Belly Pic



 Pic from about 2 weeks ago.

A few weeks back the midwife brought the pool with her, so a few days later Nate set it up just to see how long it took to inflate.  Holy moly, it was a lot bigger than I imagined!  After that, he partially deflated it and stuck it in the basement.  Well, last night he brought it back out, as I had a nice dose of false labor.  The pool got set up (no water, thank goodness), birth supplies were set out and then by 1 am my contractions stopped and we went to bed.  Uggh!  Needless to say I was very frustrated and both Nate and I are a little tired today.  This false labor thing is a bit tricky, always making me doubt if it's the real thing.  It's so hard to tell because the beginning of my real labor is the exact same as the false labor I experience.  I've had about 4 episodes of false labor this pregnancy, and each time the contractions are more intense.  So the prayer now is that I will be able to clearly distinguish the difference.  I heard one woman say that you will know if its real labor if you have a baby in your arms in the end.  How true is that!

Friday, March 18, 2011

False Labor

After a full day and night of contractions, I am sore and tired.  It looks like I had my first dose of false labor for this pregnancy.  With Gunnar I was tortured with weeks and weeks of false labor.  With this baby I am relieved that I am almost 38 weeks and have only had this episode of false labor so far.  We will have to see what the weekend brings!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Home Birth Videos

As I get closer to my due date, I have been watching more and more home birth videos and reading home birth stories.  I have done this with my past two pregnancies and it seemed to help prepare me for the big day.  I really aim to watch only "calm" births, as it is my goal to remain as calm as possible.  If a mom is getting too anxious or starts to yell and scream, I quit watching and find a new one, because I don't want to reinforce that in my mind.  Here are a few of my favorite home birth videos that I have come across lately.  Watch only if you are truly intrigued by birth, natural birth and home birth.  These videos aren't too graphic, but they are still real and show some of the graphic parts a baby being born.  I have actually showed these to my children in preparation for our home birth, but don't say I didn't warn you that you might find watching a real childbirth a bit out of your comfort zone!





Friday, March 11, 2011

My Baby is Two!

I can't believe my youngest is two!  Gunnar seems like such a big boy now, and I guess just in time as he will no longer be the baby in a few weeks.  In honor of his birthday I am re-posting his birth story and the birth stories of Layla and Julius.  I think maybe I should go back and read them, too, just to get prepared for another labor and delivery!

Gunnar's Birth Story

Julius' Birth Story

Layla's Birth Story

Enjoy!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Monday, February 28, 2011

Birth Kit and Other Supplies


My birth kit arrived in the mail on Friday.  It was fun going through it and seeing familiar items from my previous hospital births.  I continue to work on our list of supplies.  I have most of the items needed, like a new hose to fill the birth pool, lots of towels, trash bags and a large bottle of hydrogen peroxide.  This next week I hope to finish off the list so that everything is ready to go for the last month of this pregnancy.  That way if this baby decides to make an early entrance, we are prepared and ready.  But I really doubt that since I have been overdue with two of my three pregnancies.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

34 Week Belly Pic

Yikes! Does my sidebar really say 38 days until due date!  I better get my butt moving!  I still have lots to do!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Another Snow Day!

Nate and our family were blessed with another snow day!  I think this makes four for the year.  What fun.  Nate had Friday and Monday off, too, so this is a nice extension to our long weekend.  We are very spoiled to have so much extra time with Nate.

We have made some good progress on our supplies list for our home birth.  Birth kit, blood kit and pool liner have all been ordered.  We continue to check off other supplies as well.  I will feel much better when the list is completely finished.  I have started to make room in a closet and drawers for the baby's things.  Then I will need to wash the clothes, blankets and burp cloths.  Time is ticking away!

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Final Doctor's Appointment

I had my last appointment with my OB/GYN yesterday.  He said the placenta is completely out of the way and the baby looked awesome.  God is good!  It is such a relief to be done seeing him, especially since I had to wait almost an hour in the waiting room.  Now I will only be seeing my midwife and all my remaining appointments are in my own home.  It will be so nice not to have to drag my big belly around town to appointments for the remainder of this pregnancy!  I will try and get a belly picture posted soon.

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Family Portraits

Julius was kind enough to draw Nate and I.  Nate is on the left and I am on the right.  Julius said that Nate's belly is full of food.  I wondered for a minute if I had bats or butterflies in my belly, but Julius informed me that those were his, Layla and Gunnar's hands on my belly feeling the new baby.  As odd as these pictures are, I find it even funnier that I have no hair and Nate has a lot, considering it is the opposite in real life!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Looking Good

I had my ultrasound this week.  While I don't have the official results from my doctor yet, the ultrasound technician seemed hopeful.  She is not really allowed to give results, but she said things like "the placenta looks high" and "I don't think you have anything to worry about."  So, I figure if the outlook was not good, she wouldn't have said things along those lines.  I see my doctor next week for final results.  Then hopefully I will be done seeing him and can just exclusively see my midwife.

Because of the positive ultrasound, Nate and I will be working towards purchasing some items from our birthing supplies list this week.  I'm going to check the dollar store first, to keep costs low.  I also started making a short list of some basic baby supplies for when baby girl is finally here.  It's starting to feel more real!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

31 Week Belly Pic

I really meant to do this weekly, but you can see that hasn't been happening!  Layla was kind enough to snap this photo for me.  Thanks, honey!

Sunday, January 16, 2011

29 Week Belly Pic


Only 11 more weeks to go!  I managed to get through the holidays only gaining an additional 11 pounds!  Hey, I think when I was pregnant with Gunnar I gained 13 pounds over Christmas!  I continue on partial bed rest until I can have another ultrasound in a few weeks.  While the first two trimesters flew by, about a week ago this pregnancy seemed to grind to a halt and time is passing by as slow as molasses.  It could be that the partial bed rest, my increasing uncomfortableness and my cranky attitude are contributing to the feeling of time passing slow.  I also know that I am anxious to know if and how much the placenta has moved, and I am sure that anxiousness is also playing a part in the whole situation.  I am just going to do my best to get through the next few weeks when more information will be available.  Maybe it is best to think of all the things I still want to take care of before the baby arrives!  Hmm... I could get around our tax information.  I still want to clean out the filing cabinet.  I would like to make a final decision on whether we will be going with cloth diapers this time around.  I should probably have the baby girl clothes and bedding washed and ready to go by the beginning of March.  Then if I am able to birth at home, there will be a whole list of things to get ready for that!  Looking at this list, I should feel thankful that I still have 11 weeks to get all this stuff done.  Sometimes it is good to put things into perspective!   

Sunday, January 9, 2011

Weekend in the Hospital

Well, I just was able to come home from the hospital today.  At my last appointment before Christmas, my doctor informed me that my 20 week ultrasound showed placenta previa, a condition where the placenta is actual on some of the cervix.  It is a condition that can be dangerous, but it often rectifies itself as the uterus continues to expand during the remainder of the pregnancy.  The main concern is that any changes or disruptions to the cervix can cause the placenta to start to peel away from the cervix and result in bleeding.  Friday afternoon I experienced a little bleeding and my midwife advised me to head to the hospital by that evening just to be monitored.  Even though the bleeding was minor and it stopped completely by late that evening, the doctor really wanted to play it safe.  He kept me for two nights so that I could receive two rounds of steroids.  The steroids are for the baby's lung development just in case I needed to have an early emergency C-section.  Fun stuff.

What really makes this entire situation very, ahem, interesting is that after 3 hospital births Nate and I decided that we wanted to have the next baby at home under the care of a midwife.  But with my lovely condition, I really won't know if a home birth is a possibility until I get more ultrasounds to see if the placenta has moved off the cervix.  So right now, I will either be having a lovely water-birth at home or an emergency C-section at the hospital.  Could you have two more extreme scenarios than that, lol!

Either way, Nate and I are trusting the Lord.  We know which ever way we are able to birth, we will be fine with the choice.  Because safety of baby and momma are the most important, and a birth plan always takes back seat to those priorities.  But, don't get me wrong.  I will be thrilled if I can avoid a C-section.  Most women don't usually jump up and down for them, ya know!  I will keep y'all posted on future information regarding this situation.  Prayers are always greatly appreciated, too!